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For the want of a nail?

I do this for a reason. I want you to donate to a children’s charity and write to me. Please see the About Lesley page or read the instructions at the end of this post…..

I always loved nursery rhymes, both as a child and then reading or singing them to my children when they were small. The night-time routine was always a story and then the rhymes. I would set the limit at two songs but it would occasionally stretch to three, four or more. One I loved was this:-

For want of a nail the shoe was lost.

For want of a shoe the horse was lost.

For want of a horse the rider was lost.

For want of a rider the battle was lost.

For want of a battle the kingdom was lost.

And all for the want of a horseshoe nail.

A simple analogy showing how small things make a difference. Reading the news today I want to talk about a couple of small actions and their impacts…..

Firstly, an extremely distressing story, http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-nottinghamshire-18345586. For the sake of twenty pence a woman was raped and beaten so violently she was unrecognisable. I find this hard to stomach. I ask you all, have you ever given anyone a few pence so that they can make their bus fare? I have, I think most of you have too. I have also seen bus drivers allow someone on a bus when they are a few pence short of a fare. Bus drivers are able to do this, especially for young people and late at night. I know what a late bus is like, I have been on the late bus a few times. It could be described as an ‘interesting’ experience. People are loud, drunk and can be obnoxious. However, they are still people and need to get home safely.

I am sure the driver regrets his action. I am sure those passengers who remember the evening regret not passing a twenty pence piece to the woman who was attacked. It is very easy for  me to shout ‘For shame’, I admit I am shouting it in my head. They were not to know the consequences of their lack of action. They know now and have to live with that. I am so sorry that the clock cannot be turned back and this woman would not have to go through such a harrowing attack. Her life will never be the same again and that a part of her will never recover, regardless of how strong she is. I wish her healing and I hope we remember this and have the pennies to spare.

The other story I want to cover is this – http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-18353199. The headline – Unicef: Tackling diarrhoea and pneumonia saves 2m lives. Two million lives could be saved every year with a simple vaccination. I have blogged before about the stark fact that Pneumonia and diarrhoea account for one-third of all global deaths among children under five. Recent campaigns have resulted in the cost of these vaccinations dropping as pharmaceutical companies (finally?) recognised that humanity is more important that profit. A vaccination is now about £1.50. For the price of a loaf and a pint of milk a child can be immunised, those 150 pennies can save a life. Small change does make a difference.

There are those who read this and have a depressing counter-argument. This is hard for me to write but I know people think it. There are some who wonder if this creates another problem where a limited amount of food and water would have to be shared amongst more people. I say this; take one issue at a time and deal with that. Diarrhoea and pneumonia are not natural selection, they are diseases that cause children pain and their parents grief. I know that charities are businesses and have to look at getting the most benefit for their available funds; those choices must be harrowing to make. However, I know that many charities are focused on vaccination, it is not just Unicef. The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation, Save the Children and many others want to achieve this aim. Saving children is the right thing to do, once this is done the next set of problems can become focus. When the problems are large then take them one at a time.

For the want of a nail?

I close, as always, with this:-Please donate to a valid children’s charity of your choice.

  • Visit this blog and comment about your donation. Please also tell me what you wanted to be when you were 8. I still want to collect those tales and hope that some child will read about your words and deeds and want to do the same when they are older.

I will:-

  • Add your donation to the Totals page on this blog, totals are updated weekly.
  • I will also write some words about the current donations and the charity
  • Store all comments so that everyone can read them.

Thank you for reading.

Lesley

PS – Yes, I did send this post to the UN and will come back with any comments received….

June 8, 2012 at 11:29 am 2 comments

Causes? No, Effects.

I do this for a reason. I want you to donate to a children’s charity and write to me. Please see the About Lesley page or read the instructions at the end of this post…..

Twitter was all of a frenzy last night. The #BBCQT hashtag was flying through my timeline with indignation/support/seething rage. The topic was the Rochdale child sex trial and whether race was a motivating factor. There was a lot of dancing around the subject and there was, astonishingly, a discussion (I paraphrase) whether the background/behaviour of the girls and their families was a factor. This made my jaw drop.

Sexual abuse is about control, taking power over another individual and using this power for your own lustful purposes. Domination is a scary term but for some it is the ultimate dream. The very thought of it makes me feel nauseous.

Abusers of the young can be very patient. They are happy to work slowly and gain trust. I was a teenage girl once and I still remember how I felt. It does not matter how confident and outgoing a young girl is, they are rife with insecurities. Am I pretty? Am I too fat? Am I just an abnoxious person? Will anyone ever love me? Young girls can have lots of love and support, be told they are beautiful by those who love them. Their head will translate this to ‘You have to say that, you are my mother/father’.

Any girl who receives flattery and attention will initially be suspicious, will bridle at the thought. However, if it continues with no request for payback then it can slowly build trust. Not in all cases, I don’t want to give the impression that this can happen to all young people. However, those who have that vunerability can be at risk and can come to believe that they are thought of as special for their own sake by those who groom them slowly. When they are hooked, young people become dependant. Their self-worth becomes dictated by the abuser. A little praise will lift them, a little punishment will leave them looking for ways to please. And so the vicious circle continues unless someone breaks it. In this case it took a long time for the circle to break. It was initially thought that one of the victims who approached police would not be a crdible witness; it took another two years before a decision was made to prosecute, yet another horrifying part of this whole case.

I am glad this initial trial is over for the sake of these young girls. I hope, as the police say, that further cases are brought to bring any other abusers to task. This is not a matter of race, this is a matter of abuse. Abusers have long colluded and come together to hurt and use children and young people. Abuse is not a matter of gender, colour, creed or belief. It is a malicious use of power gained slowly. Evil acts have no one source, they come from all areas of life but those who abuse often recognise it in others and come together to cause great harm.

These were children that were hurt. They did not ask for this, they have no blame. They were drawn in and used. I hope they recover from this as best they can. I hope they grow strong and take control for themselves, live life and get pleasure from that life. Abuse damages for a long time, I hope they get the support they need to move forward. One step at a time……

I close, as always, with this:-

  • Please donate to a valid children’s charity of your choice.
  • Visit this blog and comment about your donation. Please also tell me what you wanted to be when you were 8. I still want to collect those tales and hope that some child will read about your words and deeds and want to do the same when they are older.

I will:-

  • Add your donation to the Totals page on this blog, totals are updated weekly.
  • I will also write some words about the current donations and the charity
  • Store all comments so that everyone can read them.

Thank you for reading.

Lesley

May 11, 2012 at 12:36 pm Leave a comment


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